Illusion of Control

A chance coffee table discussion with some colleagues.

Our illusion of control!

And my psychotic fears!

We plan so much in advance, we have every little detail worked out, all dates finalized.

We have it all in control, the anticipation builds up.

Then..

Out of nowhere appears a sniffle, a drizzle and there goes your plan out in a fizzle!

What happens then??

Cancel, blame, sulk!

Lot of money spent, without enjoying the benefit!

Sometimes even with expansive educational preparation—unexpected events often interfere with our plans and our best efforts to control an outcome or even ourselves!

We expend so much energy in trying to plan, predict, and prevent things that we cannot possibly plan, predict, or prevent. Even the weather!!!

So, does this mean we do not plan? We do everything “on the fly” ?

I have had a lot of fun traveling, meeting friends and vacationing that way, as well as when I have planned out details till every “t” is crossed and “i” is dotted.

But….

I do not feel the anger and frustration if an unplanned vacation gets cancelled just because I cannot control the circumstances.

With the long weekend looming in front of me, I have nothing planned and no place to go!

I fear the “Planning and cancelling” am known to do!

Fear, the reason for being a control freak.

Do I start planning for the “Let’s not plan but just go somewhere trip” or should I have my itinerary and stay all planned and worked out?

Am I willing to accept that I cannot control everything?

Am I willing to let go, have trust and “Live life on Life’s terms”?

And the weather’s???

A lovely quote by Brian Andreas I should probably hang in my room as a constant everyday reminder, 

“If you hold on to the handle, she said, it's easier to maintain the illusion of control. But it's more fun if you just let the wind carry you”