I did not know what the term " Friends with benefits" meant till I was well into my 30's and received a sound education after a faux pas.
Being single you are easy prey for many to consider you want this relationship. It is convenient and provides the much needed benefits without having to look very far.
Why is it so difficult for a man and woman to remain good friends without turning the relationship into a physical experiment.
Sometimes the experiment goes awry and the relationship turns sour, if the foundation was strong the friendship survives the test of sex and becomes stronger sans any more physical attraction.
I have found good friends in the opposite sex with zero need to take it beyond that.
I have made peace with friends where the experiment failed but the benefits of having a good true friend have continued well into the years.
It is not easy when you are needy to not want to slip back into what was once good.
Why can't the "With benefits" in Friends with benefits be the benefit of comfort, the ease, the vulnerability?
Why should chemistry between two people always be about the sexual attraction and not remain the chemistry of friendship
A friendship like Meredith and Alex, Sheldon and Penny, Phoebe and Joey
I'll take one Alex in my life please. That's the kind of benefit I crave.
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