Birthdays come but once a year.
Every passing year we yearn to make it special, celebrate with special friends, do something different. Make it memorable.
Birthday month not being far away, this year I decided to do something different again.
Nothing that needed anyone else's support, but just my will power.
A friend had told me I complain a lot! As unbelievable as it sounded to me, being human we never accept our mistakes, I decided to act on this seemingly negative trait.
Never satisfied, expect more, lose hope, distrust- these are common causes for us to get frustrated and start complaining about our situation. There are habitual cribbers who take pleasure in draining the energy out of you with their complaints. They do not want your help or advice, just want to dump their problems on you and want to remain unhappy.
I am sure I am not one of these!!
And then there are the ones who yes, complain, though I would not call it complaining, but those seeking a solution. They state their problem and also know how to address it.
Of course, I am no saint, I cannot deny that I don't complain. I do. Plentiful, about small, inane stuff! I too seek to transfer my pathetic sorry state onto someone just for some momentary relief.
I have been a receiver too. After all misery loves company.
Thats when I realised, since I do complain after all( there I accept my mistake) others take liberty to do it to me!
Complaining also has scientific and medical implications!
It releases the stress hormone cortisol!! This puts our body into "fight or flight mode" which means more all systems concentrate in one area and make us prone to heart disease and diabetes.
As we sow, so we reap, it's a killer disease as well. The silent killer, being around people who complain makes us one of them, we imbibe from them and become them!
Our hippocampus the problem solving and logical part of the brain shrinks with constant complaining, making us illogical and unreasonable!
This surely needs immediate remedial action!
So here comes the challenge!
A gift to self!
The 66 days challenge!
I did some research and practice on the 21 day challenge!
It definitely takes more than 21 days for a habit to stick!
It takes 21 days for the idea to sink in, more for the habit to stick and sustain for ever!
So the magic number research says is 66.
Why wait for July 1st to start this practice, today is a good day as ever. Making me ready for a brand new birthday this year!
I commit myself not to complain.
It will be difficult to begin with since most of my complaints are petty, related to work, friends, traffic. Unconsciously, I know I tend to do it. But slowly, once I know that even these are a NO NO since taking up this challenge, am sure I will think twice before complaining about the small stuff as well.
Of course, complaints which produce a positive result will be allowed!
I do hope my neurons trigger my happy hormone 'serotonin' leading to a better me soon and I remain 'dopamined' in the future!!!
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it,
change your attitude. Don’t complain.” – Maya Angelou
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